Love: Want An(other) Extraordinary One?

There is Hope

After a long, cold winter and now an equally long, rainy spring, I am ready for some warm weather and this weekend has not disappointed. It is hot! Summertime hot! Warm weather often turns people’s hearts towards love, especially those currently without a romantic relationship in their lives. Having a great relationship often tops many people’s lists for creating a life they love.

A Picture of Black Couple Embracing

However, past experiences have many of those same people questioning the likelihood of experiencing a great love. So, today, I am starting a new series on relationships beginning with a post on hope of a great love, even another great love. This series consists of reposts from our newsletter A Stitch in Time. I hope you enjoy it whether reading for the first time or second!

For Those Looking for Love:

“What you said gave me hope,” Tara said. She was in the audience the night before when Reggie and I had shared about handling baggage before and during a relationship. Her comment took me back. 

I always knew that I was going to be married. What I did not know was how long it would take to find real love, (or should I say for it to find me), or the pain that I was going to encounter along the way. What I also did not know was that love and marriage are not necessarily the same thing.

When Reggie came into my life, I thought I had already experienced twice what I called a “great love” – both passionate and romantic. I did not think I would (could or should) be entitled to yet another “great love.” I believed that I would love again, but not a “great love,” a “comfortable love.”

God showed me differently. What I had to give up was not my hope of great love, but my definition of love and the ways in which I went about finding it.

That is what I did. Right before Reggie came into my life, I decided to change my ways when it came to relationships. I decided to do it God’s way. That meant that before entering another relationship, I spent time alone with God. It was the best decision I ever made. I had been alone before. I had even spent time with God before, but this time was special. This time, I understood the wonderful gift it was to be alone with God. I understood that singleness was a gift, and since I knew that I would one day be married, it was a gift that would one day go away. So, I decided to make the most of it.

I made this decision, not because I am super spiritual, but because I was tired of the pain of unfruitful relationships. If I was going to do it again, I needed it to be different. So, I needed to be different. My time alone with Him allowed God to heal me and change me. Ironically, Reggie had also come to the same decision after his last relationship. God used his season alone to heal and change him too.

In time Reggie came into my life and we had a great love. It all began with a decision to do relationships God’s way. That experience left me with more hope than I ever dreamed possible. One February night, our hope became Tara’s hope. It is our prayer that if you have lost hope, our hope can become your hope because that is part of what this blog is about.

Until Next Time,


Questions: Have past relationships impacted your hope? If so, how? Are you afraid to hope because of past hurts? What can you do to overcome your fear? Please respond by clicking on the Comment, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+ and/or Pinterest buttons below. Also, if this post blessed you,please feel free to pass A Stitch in Time along to family and friends, but please forward it in its entirety.